Immature guys who are on dating sites but say: “I’m not looking for a relationship” – a******s!

November 20, 2019.Reading time 6 minutes.

I am not looking for love and I am not subjecting myself to the rigours of dating sites – but I know plenty of hopefuls who are. And I have been shown pictures of potentially suitable matches… and they all look the bloody same to me! Preened men with deliberately coiffed hair (that is supposed […]

Personal empowerment requires real honesty – are you brave enough to take it?

October 22, 2019.Reading time 12 minutes.

If something is to empower us, or lead toward our empowerment, it has to be honest. And by honest I don’t mean passive-aggressive or downright nasty; if someone snarls at you, “do you know what your problem is? You can’t take the truth!” they don’t have your greater good at heart. Genuine, well-meant honesty definitely […]

Don’t look for closure on a broken relationship – it doesn’t work that way!

October 8, 2019.Reading time 11 minutes.

The title of this blog says it all: there is no such thing as closure where a broken relationship and heart is concerned. What there is, however, is something much more powerful: ultimate detachment… but first, we have to understand how to allow ourselves to reach that stage! We imagine that if we can just […]

The psychic says ‘he’ is your soulmate/twin flame/inevitable connection. But is he… really?

September 27, 2019.Reading time 14 minutes.

So, the psychic says that the object of your emotional desire is your soulmate, your twin flame… your ‘inevitable connection’, even. But what does all of this actually mean? And are they right? I have researched the first two (there wasn’t much on the third), and I couldn’t find anything that tied in with anything […]

You felt a ‘connection’ with your POI – but what is it really all about?

September 25, 2019.Reading time 11 minutes.

“I really believed that we had a connection… and he said he felt it too. But now he’s blowing hot and cold, and doesn’t seem too interested. What has changed his mind, and how do I reconnect with him?” is something I have been asked many, many times throughout the years. Maybe not always in […]

Emotional immaturity: habitually reacting to life, rather than responding – it will prevent you from ever moving forward!

September 21, 2019.Reading time 19 minutes.

I wrote this blog because I recognise just how much conflict and unnecessary pain and drama is created by emotional immaturity; it is entirely disempowering, and yet can so easily be addressed… leading to a much happier, healthier, more productive life. If you are at the mercy of someone who is emotionally immature, you will […]

If he’s jerking you around, blowing hot and cold – dump him, he isn’t Mr Right!

August 10, 2019.Reading time 11 minutes.

If he is blowing hot and cold, saying one thing whilst doing another, clearly unwilling to make a genuine effort to get your relationship off the ground… don’t waste time and energy analysing, wondering where it is all ‘going’ – the likelihood is, it isn’t going anywhere you want to be! What is it, with […]

“Nothing good ever happens to me!” You DO NOT want to think, say, or believe this!

May 25, 2019.Reading time 8 minutes.

I have many faults (yes, really!), and I am likely to be a work in progress until I take my last breath… but I don’t believe I have ever uttered the cry, “nothing good ever happens to me!” And if I have, it would have been a long time ago, and I would have deserved […]

Are you a fixer… who believes that more love is all that is needed?

April 2, 2019.Reading time 8 minutes.

Questions: 1) Are you a fixer? 2) Do you crave to be the woman or man who shows your partner the meaning of ‘real’ love… the only one who has ever truly understood them? 3) Do you believe that if you pour enough love into a dysfunctional relationship you will definitely be able to heal […]

Looking for love? Save time, energy and heartache – BE YOURSELF!

March 28, 2019.Reading time 12 minutes.

Joanne was desperate to be in a committed relationship (and I am not exaggerating or just being unkind, I promise you!), but she consistently behaved as if she was an independent-minded party girl who just wanted a good time. After yet another bitter dating disappointment, I asked her why she continued to present herself in […]