Is it really love? And can love conquer all? Maybe, maybe not.

A young woman recently asked me, very sadly, why it is they say that love conquers all – when it clearly doesn’t? Having been suddenly and unexpectedly dumped by her partner of ten years, in a particularly cold-hearted way, she was left wondering whether he’d actually ever truly loved her… and what love was even […]

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The spiritual lie that makes you believe you are responsible for everything

Joan was perfectly happy in her cosy home – until the new neighbours moved in next door. Loud, aggressive, intrusive and abusive, they made life a living hell for the private and reflective single woman. “What have I done to attract this into my life?” she mournfully asked me, believing that she must be responsible. […]

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Compulsive Liars, and The devastation They Leave In Their wake.

Compulsive liars are dangerous. They have the ability to convince you that you are the unreasonable one – the crazy one, even. And they get a buzz from making you look bad to others by presenting them with a seriously butchered version of the truth – in which they always star as the victim. The […]

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Why can’t I be happy? and what is happiness really about?

Several times recently I have been asked about happiness: “will I be happy?”; “is my daughter happy?”; “which career would make me happy?”; “will I be happy in my relationship?”. The thing about happiness is, it’s an inside job; it isn’t entirely dependent upon circumstance (partially dependent, but not wholly and completely – thank goodness). […]

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Are women really looking for a man… or, are they looking for a woman with a penis?

I recently watched an episode of Catfish, a program I don’t usually bother with. An attractive, intelligent young woman had found someone she considered to be absolutely perfect for her, online. They had never actually met even though they had been in communication for something like 2 years… and were talking about moving in together […]

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Is the fear of failure, of not being good enough, holding you prisoner?

Most people don’t feel good enough, and most people fear failure – including those who are globally renowned for being highly successful. So, what does that tell us? That being afraid and self-critical is absolutely normal… and that some human beings allow it to hold them back more than others do. I recently watched the […]

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To succeed you cannot afford to be impatient or cut corners!

I have become fat and I don’t need anyone to offer reassuring platitudes! And I don’t care if anyone dismisses my 2.5 stone (35 lbs) extra weight as inconsiderable, compared to theirs… I can only take care of my own business! Of course, the weight didn’t pile on overnight; it is something that occured over […]

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The secret to personal power… let your higher-self rule, not your lower-self!

I know when my lower-self is holding the reins and it never leads to anything productive. My lower-self causes me to thinks thoughts that are not for the greater good, and to react to life’s circumstances rather than respond. My lower-self behaves in a second-rate manner which usually results in me letting myself and others […]

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