Spirituality… Something We Are, Not Something We Do

Have you ever been around a person who wields their ‘spirituality’ as if it is a deadly weapon? They project a sublime attitude, whilst all the while beating you over the head with it because they see themselves as superior to you – and they want you to know it! I have, many times, been lectured about spirituality by flaky twenty-somethings, and passive-aggressively put in my place by intense, middle-aged obsessives – and it’s always incredibly annoying. But, heaven help me if I dare to show that annoyance – because, apparently, if I do then I am demonstrating my lack of spirituality! In the past, there have been occasions on which I would respond to a critical or passive-aggressive email with firmness, only to receive a reply along the lines of “Huh, well you aren’t very spiritual, are you!” Okay, you’ve got me there, you’re right, I’m not; at least not where your version of spirituality is concerned.

So, what does being spiritual actually mean? Well, it can mean anything, as there are probably a thousand different interpretations to pick from! I myself have always believed that spirituality is something that we are rather than something we do. Or, to explain it in a better way, I believe that we are all spiritual by nature, regardless of the beliefs and attitudes we adopt in life. Even the most hardened cynic is still spiritual by nature, even if they aren’t engaging in what are considered to be spiritual activities. Which leads me to another thought: does spirituality need to be seen in order to be real? Does it have to be announced to the world? I think that, at least where some are concerned, the answer to those questions would be yes – because it is important to them to be recognised as being spiritual. And probably not for negative reasons; it could just be that it provides them with a sense of identity.

Popular spirituality (as opposed to religious spirituality) has grown from the ashes of the new-age movement that began life in the seventies, following the hippy flower power of the sixties. It is now a complete pick-and-mix, tailor-made to suit the individual. And we can dip our toe into it or dive in and completely immerse ourselves. However, one thing that we shouldn’t do is use it to elevate ourselves or adopt a sense of superiority. That approach is the ego’s ally and spirituality’s nemesis! We cannot reasonably believe that we have ‘arrived’ and therefore have become spiritual experts – because there is no definitive benchmark and no way of measuring it. There are only versions of it… and one person’s version will not automatically work for another. Which is why we need to be mindful of the way in which we present and use it out there in the world. I am not suggesting that we shouldn’t want to embrace our beliefs wholeheartedly and share them with others; that is a joyful thing to do. But there is nothing joyful about using spirituality as a way of feeling better about ourselves whilst making others feel worse about themselves. There is nothing joyful about passive-aggressive communication – all too often present within the spiritual fraternity – that is dressed up as ‘well-meant feedback’. Especially when it is followed by kisses or the phrase ‘love and light’! 

Spirituality is about freedom, curiosity, creativity, positive connection, humour, and friendship. It is about strength, courage, passion, and forthrightness. It is also about genuine sadness and even anger – because they are a part of actual, real, human life. You can read all of the spiritual books, meditate, light candles, use tools of divination, and attend spiritualist events – and these things could enhance your life. However, they are, when all is said and done, merely activities… but spirituality is a state of mind. Often, when someone informs me that they are spiritual, they usually mean that they engage in spiritual activities. On the other hand, I have come across individuals who have never engaged in any of the above, but yet who appear to naturally live spiritual lives without giving it a second thought. Which is why I say that spirituality is something that we are, rather than something that we do. There is nothing wrong with the doing or talking about it – it’s just that, on its own, it’s a bit like a lovely layer of icing – sitting on top of a cardboard cake! 

So, don’t fall into the trap of believing that there is, somewhere, a spiritual pathway that you should be on… if only you could find it. And don’t automatically accept everything that you read or hear within the spiritual arena, simply because it is being delivered by a popular ‘expert’ (after all, they should know). If the experience of spirituality is painful and frustrating for you, if it causes you to feel intense, then you might want to rethink things. I would put it to you that it isn’t supposed to feel that way. Your life might not be great (right now, at this moment in time); you might be struggling with your own feelings and mindset (right now, at this moment in time); you might feel lost, and you might be making unhelpful choices and decisions (right now, at this moment in time) – but spirituality is not the magical, mythical answer to all of your problems – and you are not failing if you aren’t ‘feeling’ it in the way that you believe you should. Believe me, I have met my share of spiritual ‘performers’ in my time and they do far more harm than good. This is what I think: being spiritual means doing your best to be the best version of yourself in each present moment – whilst dealing with whatever it is that the present has put in front of you. Sometimes it will be easy, other times it will be incredibly challenging. Being spiritual means being willing to learn and grow from your experiences. Being spiritual means facing life’s challenges as best you can, without becoming entrapped by bitterness and blame. Being spiritual means standing up for what you believe in, in an honest, non-violent way. Being spiritual means being true to yourself, whilst not allowing your lower self to gain the upper hand too often. Being spiritual means developing your interests and talents, and not dismissing them as unimportant. Being spiritual means being open to different points of view and always willing to learn something new. Being spiritual means being curious about the world around you, and appreciative of all the good things it provides (including those opportunities to evolve!). Being spiritual means being open to guidance, whilst forming your own opinions and beliefs. Being spiritual is what you are – not something you need to become. Recognise it, welcome it, and embrace it – and leave the smugness to the smug, and the intensity to the intense… you don’t need either!    


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2 thoughts on “Spirituality… Something We Are, Not Something We Do

  1. Hi Leanne,

    I didn’t know where else to write this. I am really enjoying your YouTube videos so far.

    I have some requests of videos you could do, you may say no to one of them as some people you have dealt with are probably suffering from mental health or childhood issues, and so you may not want to do a video for this reason. However, maybe this would be good to get your side across.

    But my first question would be a video on your experiences with crazy or problematic customers over the years, eg the situations that stand out or maybe common things you come across where you tell someone something they don’t like to hear and they dig their heels in not listening and perhaps put your side across with experiences you’ve faced. Maybe you’ve had times where you’ve wanted to have a cry or a glass of wine because of particular incidents.

    Another question I’d like in regards to videos, I’d quite enjoy to read some of your experiences of going to people’s houses in the past who have had genuine issues with someone/people/animals haunting it. Maybe talk about the ghost/spirit/soul you encountered and what their story was or what you picked up on them and why they weren’t at rest and haunting a place. Also, you could maybe chuck in some stories about stories that were funny or warm hearted dealing with the public or ghosts/spirits as I’m sure they stay the same person and character after they have passed over. So there could be some funny stories you share in regards to that.

    Maybe for a 3rd video, you could talk about the pros and cons of the work you do/have done over the years? Advice for people like yourself who have just started the line of work you do or need any heads up tips and advice?

    Just a thought.

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    1. Hi Amy, thank you so much for taking the time to to come up with ideas for videos – I will definitely use them! Only yesterday I was wondering what subject to cover next, so your suggestions are very timely!


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