Anxiety, anxiety, anxiety – can we please talk about something else?

As a current inhabitant of planet Earth, I can assure you that there is plenty to be anxious about… even if we don’t listen to the news or follow it on social media. Right now, apart from all of the usual stuff, I would say that there are three specific sources of notable anxiety in […]

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Ambitious Women – Do Not Allow An Insecure Partner To Diminish You!

I am not a man basher and I have no time for women who are (as much as I am not a woman basher and have no time for men who are). However, I have witnessed far too many men attempting to undermine their partner or steal their thunder… and, having been on the receiving […]

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No motivation? What you REALLY need is desire (and a bit of patience…)

What on earth is motivation? We’re always banging on about it. We need it, we want it, we lack it – and when we do manage to find it, we struggle to maintain it. According to Google, one definition of motivation is: a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way Another […]

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Spirituality… something we are, not something we do

Have you ever been around a person who wields their ‘spirituality’ as if it is a deadly weapon? They project a sublime attitude, whilst all the while wanting to beat you over the head with it because they see themselves as superior… and it’s your job to recognise the fact! I have, many times, been […]

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What Does It Feel Like To Die – To Transition From This World?

“I walked in the light – it was beautiful! And there was lovely music playing… I thought that I was dreaming. And I knew that I wasn’t alone. They took me by the hands and I knew that it was important. I was shown into a room where I sat for a while; it was […]

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Is it really love? And can love conquer all? Maybe, maybe not.

A young woman recently asked me, very sadly, why it is they say that love conquers all – when it clearly doesn’t? Having been suddenly and unexpectedly dumped by her partner of ten years, in a particularly cold-hearted way, she was left wondering whether he’d actually ever truly loved her… and what love was even […]

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The spiritual lie that makes you believe you are responsible for everything

Joan was perfectly happy in her cosy home – until the new neighbours moved in next door. Loud, aggressive, intrusive and abusive, they made life a living hell for the private and reflective single woman. “What have I done to attract this into my life?” she mournfully asked me, believing that she must be responsible. […]

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Compulsive Liars, And The Devastation They Leave In Their Wake.

Compulsive liars are dangerous. They have the ability to convince you that you are the unreasonable one – the crazy one, even. And they get a buzz from making you look bad to others by presenting them with a seriously butchered version of the truth – in which they always star as the victim. The […]

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Why can’t I be happy? and what is happiness really about?

Several times recently I have been asked about happiness: “will I be happy?”; “is my daughter happy?”; “which career would make me happy?”; “will I be happy in my relationship?”. The thing about happiness is, it’s an inside job; it isn’t entirely dependent upon circumstance (partially dependent, but not wholly and completely – thank goodness). […]

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