The threat of being exposed, destroyed, ruined, and annihilated on the internet hangs over every business and every self-employed person. And the chances of being brutally dragged over the red-hot coals of cyberspace is probably greater for those involved in the intuitive (or psychic) industry than most others.
And this is because of the power wielded by psychic forums… they can make other review sites feel like a big warm cuddle!
Now, I am not suggesting that this kind of forum shouldn’t exist, or that everyone who uses them is evil – absolutely not! What I am saying is that some (note, I said some, not all!) people seem to believe that they have the ultimate weapon to use against any reader who, for whatever reason, is deemed to have fallen short. And I believe that one of the main reasons that authentic readers sometimes tell customers what they believe they want to hear is fear. And that just feels plain wrong to me, not to mention sad.
It ain’t all black and white…
Of course, not everyone who works within the intuitive/psychic arena is above reproach, and even the best of us have to learn how to take productive, constructive criticism on the chin… as much as it hurts. But, unfortunately, it isn’t that simple and straightforward. One person’s meat is another’s poison, as they say. And the way in which an assessment (or assassination) is approached and worded can be very revealing: is it articulate and reasonable, a calmly delivered opinion, sticking to the facts as the critic sees them? Or, is it mean and spiteful, more of a personal attack than a genuine critique? And who joins in with what, and how they join in, can also be very insightful. As I said, it isn’t all black and white.
So, what inspired me to write this blog? Well, not – as you may suspect – because I have been the subject of recent critical discussion on psychic forums (even though I have been metaphorically tarred and feathered on forums on occasions!). I don’t actually frequent these forums myself, but I do know some of what’s been going on, courtesy of the following:
Throughout the years, some of the most ardent critics have delighted in informing me that they have been publicly ‘destroying’ me, and some have even gone to the trouble of gathering together an angry mob of Leanne-haters, gleefully delivering their individual, scathing opinions of me, by email.
Loyal customers have felt duty-bound to warn me about what I am currently being accused of (whilst asking me not to land them in the proverbial brown stuff!).
Google. I once looked myself up, in order to check something on my website without having to log in, only to notice a thread (which I stupidly read), that included some pretty unpleasant comments that had been made about me, interspersed by some that were kinder and more flattering.
No, what actually inspired me to write this blog was the consequence of giving a firm NO to a customer I no longer wish to work with, for very considered reasons. And the fact that this is not the first time I have said no – also with consequences. You see, I figure that as a self-employed person who is solely responsible for the business I have created, a business that will thrive or die depending upon the way in which I conduct it – a business that has to remain faithful to the values that I myself have assigned to it – I have the right to choose who I work with and who I don’t. I have earned that right. After all, the customer always has the luxury of deciding whether or not they want to work with me; it isn’t just one-way traffic. And the consequence of saying no tends to come pretty speedily, such as an emailed reminder of how s**t I really am, and how all of those who have had bad things to say about me are actually right (with a few other insults thrown in) – and it becomes immediately obvious that the next port of call is some psychic forum somewhere. Which brings me back to my original observation that the hand grenade of being ‘exposed’ and busted is always out there, just ready and waiting for detonation! For the thin-skinned, self-doubting intuitive consultant or psychic, this can be too much to handle. They either resign themselves to feeding the customer with bull poop or they throw in the towel and quit. The thicker-skinned, more seasoned readers learn to accept it as an occupational hazard. And the less-than-honest and ethical? Well, they couldn’t give two f***s either way, so it matters not to them. They just shrug it off and move on to the next target.
Find her guilty!
One customer even went as far as taking out 4 cases against me through Paypal… because I refunded her payment for a consultation (and not just out of the blue, either – I’d politely informed her on several occasions that I was no longer prepared to accept her business). Luckily, Paypal is a smart organisation and I didn’t lose out. But what this kind of behaviour shows me is that I was right to want to disassociate myself from the perpetrator, because the reaction was swift and it was vengeful.
However, I really need to explain that this is not a common occurrence and that the vast majority of customers would not dream of behaving in such a way. And I don’t cut people out willy-nilly; it usually takes a lot for me to reach that point – and even then I seriously think it through. Nonetheless, once the decision is made, then that is it – even if the customer allows some time to pass before making another payment, imagining that I will either have forgotten about it or gotten over it! When this does happen, I simply refund the payment without a word of explanation because they’ve already had enough of my time and energy. And, as for the person who took out 4 cases against me through Paypal, just a couple of months later she changed her email address and name and paid for another consultation (which was swiftly returned because I recognised her!). No way, lady!
Selling my soul to the devil!
And do you know what finally made it easier for me to respond in this way (apart from believing in myself more)? Not being so skint that I NEEDED the money so badly that I felt I had to take everything that came my way, regardless. I still need the money, but I no longer NEED it, if you know what I mean. I remember, during my travelling-out-for-group-booking years, sometimes having to grit my teeth so hard they almost crumbled… because I was absolutely dependent upon the payment. There was one evening in particular when I arrived at the said house, at the allotted time, only to find no one home. I called the lady who told me that she and her friends were on their way home from work and stuck in traffic. Fair enough – so I waited in the car for what felt like an age, until they eventually showed up. Great, I thought, now I can get on with things. Not a bit of it. First of all, they settled down to eat the Chinese takeaway they’d brought home with them (stuck in traffic, eh?), and then the lady of the house gave her friends a grand tour of her newly acquired home… all whilst I sat around like a spare part. On top of that, they weren’t the most friendly, responsive bunch either and the whole evening left me feeling second-rate and sick to my stomach. It was because I was so in need of the money that I felt I had no choice other than to sell my soul to the devil. Thankfully, that sense of desperation eventually led me to start putting in some pretty serious work on my abundance mentality – and not a day too soon!
Stay away from the monkeys!
In truth, I did meet some genuinely lovely, hospitable people on my travels, but I would say that it was probably a 60 – 40 split, in favour of those who were less than accommodating. There is something about booking the ‘psychic’ for a girl’s night in that brings out the worst in some folk. I finally quit travelling out, after more than 20 years, because I was becoming anxious, stressed, and angry, and it was spilling out into all areas of my life. But, you know, it was those comments thrown up by Google that created the turning point, where my finances were concerned. One person, who had been speaking of me in a less than complimentary manner, said something that really hit home: “Well, I see that she’s got a half-price sale on, so I might as well give her another go”. Wow… so that’s how it is. By asking for peanuts, I was running the risk of attracting at least a few monkeys! And from that point on, something within me changed. Not only did I stop giving my skills away for small amounts of money, I actually increased my prices. And so, to whoever you are who made that observation – thank you! And thank you (for very different reasons, obviously) to all of the thousands of wonderful, reasonable people I have been lucky enough to receive as customers over the past 29 years – and who make the work worthwhile! Remember: try to listen to and learn from constructive criticism, but know your worth, stand by your values and your decisions, learn to say NO when necessary – and view the monkeys of life as valuable teachers!
6 thoughts on “The ‘threat’ of bad reviews on psychic forums!”
Leanne I quite recently found you. My concerning area is work and career. You blew me away. I love your honesty and professionalism. I asked a tricky question and you helped me a lot. All that you saw is panning out one by one. Interestingly it did not take years to pan out but probably a few weeks to months. Now I have already requested for a second reading.
However, I have to admit though I found you through that forum you are referring to.
Hi, thank you so much! I really appreciate your feedback x
Hi Leanne, have recently found you and very much enjoy reading your articles. I totally ‘get,’ the liberation that saying ‘no’ to a client brings , it took me a long time to let people go who I felt were not having a positive effect on my working day! Just wanted to say though that I and others who work in this field are being equally savaged on a particular American owned psychic forum. A very angry and distressed colleague got her tech savvy partner to investigate some of the IP address details of the users on the forum and discovered that a lot of the users have multiple accounts. More digging was done and some of these details could be traced back to organisations with a commercial vested interest in ‘taking down’ popular and successful psychics. Anyone with any intelligence would question the ‘validity’ of most if not all of the comments as sadly in such a competitive and lucrative industry there are those who will deliberately target the competition often telling the most outrageous lies in doing so!. Please don’t let this nonsense stop you doing what you do – you are fab!
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Wow, fantastic response… and VERY interesting! I am just in the middle of a blog that is pertinent to what you have written, so doubly interesting to me! Clearly, it is much more sinister than I imagined, but not surprising. Bunch of b******s! And thank you for enjoying my blog posts, that means a lot to me 🙂
Very unethical and unprofessional of you calling people that pay your bills monkeys! This monkey will no longer give you money for your peanuts.