Bitching about our partner to others: why making a habit of it can create more problems!

July 29, 2019.Reading time 9 minutes.

We’ve all done it: bitched and moaned to friends and family about our partner – listing every misdemeanour, explaining all of the ways in which they have been letting us down – only to get it off our chest and feel so much better about them. Until next time. But, each time we do it, […]

A resistant partner makes the relationship hard work.

July 14, 2019.Reading time 13 minutes.

Are you in a relationship with an immature resister? You will know if you are, because even the smallest thing can turn into a battle for perceived control! To explain what I mean, I will give you a few examples of resistant behaviour from my own past: He insists on taking an alternative route from […]

Are your emotions running the show? Are your thoughts and feelings driving you crazy?

July 4, 2019.Reading time 18 minutes.

Is your own thinking driving you crazy? Are your thought processes muddled, scattered, and highly emotionally-charged? Rarely, occasionally… or very regularly? If so, do you have the guts to admit this to yourself, and commit to change – for the sake of your own sanity (and possibly other people’s, too!)? Emotionally reactive thinking is rapidly […]

“Nothing good ever happens to me!” You DO NOT want to think, say, or believe this!

May 25, 2019.Reading time 8 minutes.

I have many faults (yes, really!), and I am likely to be a work in progress until I take my last breath… but I don’t believe I have ever uttered the cry, “nothing good ever happens to me!” And if I have, it would have been a long time ago, and I would have deserved […]

13 reasons your relationship is under attack from ‘friendly fire’!

June 1, 2018.Reading time 16 minutes.

There’s a reality TV show currently running, featuring the same group of people, all competing to make the most amount of profit from the sales of secondhand goods. One particular couple make unpleasant viewing, as the woman persistently and publicly berates and belittles her partner, whilst he slumps around, looking miserable. Very occasionally, he rises […]