Are women really looking for a man… or, are they looking for a woman with a penis?

January 31, 2020.Reading time 7 minutes.

I recently watched an episode of Catfish, a program I don’t usually bother with. An attractive, intelligent young woman had found someone she considered to be absolutely perfect for her, online. They had never actually met even though they had been in communication for something like 2 years… and were talking about moving in together […]

Is the fear of failure, of not being good enough, holding you prisoner?

January 5, 2020.Reading time 16 minutes.

Most people don’t feel good enough, and most people fear failure – including those who are globally renowned for being highly successful. So, what does that tell us? That being afraid and self-critical is absolutely normal… and that some human beings allow it to hold them back more than others do. I recently watched the […]

To succeed you cannot afford to be impatient or cut corners!

January 3, 2020.Reading time 11 minutes.

I have become fat and I don’t need anyone to offer reassuring platitudes! And I don’t care if anyone dismisses my 2.5 stone (35 lbs) extra weight as inconsiderable, compared to theirs… I can only take care of my own business! Of course, the weight didn’t pile on overnight; it is something that occured over […]

The secret to personal power… let your higher-self rule, not your lower-self!

December 30, 2019.Reading time 9 minutes.

I know when my lower-self is holding the reins and it never leads to anything productive. My lower-self causes me to thinks thoughts that are not for the greater good, and to react to life’s circumstances rather than respond. My lower-self behaves in a second-rate manner which usually results in me letting myself and others […]

Immature guys who are on dating sites but say: “I’m not looking for a relationship” – a******s!

November 20, 2019.Reading time 6 minutes.

I am not looking for love and I am not subjecting myself to the rigours of dating sites – but I know plenty of hopefuls who are. And I have been shown pictures of potentially suitable matches… and they all look the bloody same to me! Preened men with deliberately coiffed hair (that is supposed […]

Personal empowerment requires real honesty – are you brave enough to take it?

October 22, 2019.Reading time 12 minutes.

If something is to empower us, or lead toward our empowerment, it has to be honest. And by honest I don’t mean passive-aggressive or downright nasty; if someone snarls at you, “do you know what your problem is? You can’t take the truth!” they don’t have your greater good at heart. Genuine, well-meant honesty definitely […]

If your love interest doesn’t want you – stop clinging on like a desperate limpet!

October 17, 2019.Reading time 15 minutes.

You have become spellbound by a certain person who is making no real move to take things to the next level. Their behaviour – as opposed to their words – indicates that they aren’t as committed to the idea of developing a relationship as you are. Are you, a) recognising the obvious and responding accordingly, […]

Don’t look for closure on a broken relationship – it doesn’t work that way!

October 8, 2019.Reading time 11 minutes.

The title of this blog says it all: there is no such thing as closure where a broken relationship and heart is concerned. What there is, however, is something much more powerful: ultimate detachment… but first, we have to understand how to allow ourselves to reach that stage! We imagine that if we can just […]

Is your love interest going to seriously date you? If he hasn’t done so within 3 months, move on!

October 5, 2019.Reading time 9 minutes.

How much time do we allow to pass before cutting our losses where a love interest is concerned? How long is too long? Well, if things haven’t progressed to the stage of actual dating by the time three months have passed, it is probably unlikely to ever do so. And when I say dating, I […]

Men: If you believe them all to be users and losers, you might be associating with the wrong kind!

October 1, 2019.Reading time 16 minutes.

Men are great, aren’t they? Well, a lot of them are, but it seems to me that they often have to carry the can for those who are… shall we say… less than ideal? You know that, “all men are users/losers” thing – you’ve heard that, right? Well, how can that be? All men? Everywhere? […]